Scarcity is a Thought, Not a Fact

So many of us move through life believing that scarcity is a fact. We say things like, “There’s not enough time,” or “I can’t afford that,” or “There aren’t enough opportunities.” These thoughts feel real, even responsible. But what if I told you that scarcity isn’t a truth—it’s a thought? And like all thoughts, it’s optional.

This distinction matters, because the thoughts we repeat shape our reality. When we believe there’s not enough time, money, love, or opportunity, we act accordingly. We hustle harder, hoard our energy, avoid taking risks, or settle for less than what we truly want. From that place of fear or contraction, we inadvertently create more of the very thing we’re trying to avoid: a life that feels limited and small.

The truth is, our thoughts create our results. Every feeling we experience is rooted in a thought. And every action or inaction we take is driven by how we feel. So when we buy into scarcity thinking, it leads to scarcity action. We don’t follow up. We don’t ask for the opportunity. We keep quiet when we could speak up. We wait instead of move. We play it safe, but the cost is high—we end up creating the exact results we feared.

Scarcity thoughts are often fueled by deeper, unexamined beliefs. Beliefs like: “If I rest, I’ll fall behind,” or “If I take a risk and fail, I’ll look foolish,” or “If I say no, they’ll never ask again.” These beliefs may have once served us as protective mechanisms, especially in systems or environments where we truly had to fight for resources or recognition. But at some point, they begin to limit more than they protect. And that’s where the work begins.

The practice is not to pretend everything is abundant when it doesn’t feel that way. The practice is to get curious. To question: What am I believing right now? Is it helpful? What might I be creating with this belief? And is there a more empowering thought I can try on instead?

For example, instead of “There’s not enough time,” what if you believed, “I have time for what matters most”? Instead of “Clients are hard to find,” what if you shifted to, “There are people right now looking for exactly what I offer”? These aren’t just affirmations—they’re thoughts that open new possibilities. They create feelings of hope, motivation, and clarity. And those feelings fuel very different actions.

Scarcity is sneaky. It shows up in our calendars, in our bank accounts, in our job searches, in our creative blocks. But it’s not a fixed reality. It’s a lens. A habit of thought. And the good news is, you can change it.

When you begin to believe in sufficiency—in your time, your gifts, your worth—you start to operate from expansion instead of contraction. You take bold, aligned action. You ask for more. You create more. And slowly but powerfully, your results begin to change.

If you’re ready to shift from scarcity to sufficiency and take bold, aligned action in your life or work, I’d love to support you. You can book a complimentary 30-minute coaching call with me right here and we’ll explore what’s possible together.

The Show Must Go On: People-Pleasing in the Events Industry

In the events world, we’re taught that the show must go on and to keep everything behind the scenes. It’s a mindset that helps us navigate high-stakes environments with grace and professionalism. But when that becomes the default—when we apply it to how we show up in every interaction—it starts to wear us down.

Over time, this mindset can morph into people-pleasing. We say yes when we mean no. We hide how we’re really feeling. We become the calm in the storm, even when we’re quietly unraveling. Many of us are rewarded for our ability to over-function without complaint, but that kind of emotional labor comes at a cost. It leads to masking, burnout, and a slow erosion of self-trust.

I see this every day in my coaching practice. Brilliant, high-achieving professionals who have built careers on being the fixer, the steady hand, the go-to person—but who feel exhausted, resentful, and unsure how to reclaim their time or energy without letting someone down. The habit of people-pleasing is so ingrained, it can be hard to see it for what it is.

But here’s the truth: you can lead without losing yourself. You can succeed without constantly self-sacrificing. The first step is noticing the patterns that no longer serve you and learning how to shift them with clarity and care. That’s exactly what we do in my course, Breaking the Habit of People-Pleasing. It’s designed for professionals who are ready to stop over-functioning and start showing up in a way that’s more sustainable, honest, and aligned.

If you’re ready to stop masking and start leading with more ease and self-respect, I’d love to support you. Learn more and join the course here: www.breakingthehabitofpeoplepleasing.com

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No Immediate Yeses: A Boundary Practice for the Recovering People-Pleaser

By Robynne Weaver, Certified Leadership Coach

For a long time, my automatic response to any request, from a last-minute favor to a “quick” extra project, was an enthusiastic yes.

Yes, I can help.
Yes, I’ll stay late.
Yes, that’s fine.

I said yes because I wanted to be useful. I wanted to be liked, easygoing, reliable. I said yes even when I was exhausted. Even when I didn’t have the time, energy, or desire. And I know I’m not alone.

One of the most powerful shifts I’ve made in my recovery from people-pleasing is this simple but radical practice:

No immediate yeses.

Instead of defaulting to yes, I pause. I give myself time. I say things like:

• “Let me check my calendar and get back to you.”

• “I’ll need a day to think about that.”

• “Can I circle back with an answer by tomorrow?”

That pause might seem small, but it’s everything. It’s the moment I come back to me—to my needs, my values, and my reality—before committing to someone else’s.

Here’s what “No Immediate Yeses” does:

✅ It builds space for discernment—so you can check in with your body and your bandwidth.
✅ It honors your nervous system—interrupting the stress-fueled reflex to over-accommodate.
✅ It reinforces self-trust—because you’re practicing decisions that include, not bypass, yourself.

And here’s the magic: you can still say yes. But it’s a slower, wiser yes—one that doesn’t come at the cost of your peace, energy, or authenticity.

If you’ve been trying to set better boundaries or reclaim your time, this is a powerful place to start. Try it for a week: commit to no immediate yeses. You don’t owe anyone an instant response.

Your worth doesn’t live in how quickly or often you say yes.

Your power lives in your pause.

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Curious about what it might feel like to live more freely—without the burden of constant yeses? I explore tools like this and more in my course, Breaking the Habit of People Pleasing. It’s a self-paced program with live weekly coaching calls to support your journey back to yourself.

🔗 Learn more and sign up here: https://www.breakthehabitofpeoplepleasing.com/

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